It sounds dire to say you should not have any expectations when dating, right?
One expectation you need to leave at the door boils down to the passive assumption that your partner can read your mind. Women are particularly bad at this: We tend to think that if we subtly hint around a subject, our man will take a clue and follow through with what we are hinting about. Sure, there are plenty of men who figure their girls out over a decent period of time and can tell when she is hinting about something. But this is not always the case, especially early on in a relationship.
And what do we do when our men do not take our hints? We get upset about it all, yell and scream, tell him that he should have known what we wanted, and a fight ensues. Okay, maybe not every time, but think back to your last few fights: Could they have been avoided by coming out with what you want?
Early in relationships, you have to be forward with one another. You do not know your man from Adam, and he does not know you from Eve. I mean, not really. Even if you two were friends first, the relationship changes when you become more involved. Be honest with one another, and be open. Tell your man you want to go get sushi instead of pizza; tell your lady that you really cannot deal with Jennifer Aniston movies.
You need to get over any unrealistic expectations of psychic abilities in your partner. Tell him or her what you want. Tell him or her what you like and do not like. Express your feelings. Conversely, be open to the fact that your partner may tell you something that you really do not want to hear. Listen anyway; you may learn something. You are not psychic either.